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Complimenting Girls

Little guide on how, why and when we should be complimenting girls...

We’ve all been there—stumbling over our words, trying to say something nice without sounding like a creep.

Compliments can be powerful tools, but only if you know how to deliver them right. 

Here’s your guide to effectively complimenting women and making a lasting impression.

Why Compliments Matter

Compliments are more than just nice words. They’re a way to show genuine interest and appreciation. When done right, they can boost her confidence, create a connection, and make you stand out from the crowd.

The Basics of a Good Compliment

  1. Be Genuine: Authenticity is key. If you don’t mean it, don’t say it. Women can spot a fake compliment from a mile away.
  2. Be Specific: Vague compliments like “You’re pretty” are nice but don’t really stand out. Be specific about what you like.
  3. Avoid the Obvious: Complimenting her looks is fine, but everyone does that. Complimenting something unique about her will make a bigger impact.

Compliments That Work

1. Appearance with a Twist

Sure, telling her she’s beautiful is nice, but it’s been done to death. Instead, focus on something unique about her appearance.

  • “You look amazing in black… it makes you look XXX and I love that”
  • “I love your new haircut… makes you look XXX and really suits you”

2. Personality and Character

Complimenting her personality shows that you’re paying attention to who she is, not just what she looks like.

  • “You have such a great sense of humor; it’s really refreshing.”
  • “I admire your confidence; it’s truly inspiring.”

3. Skills and Talents

Recognizing her abilities and talents can be incredibly flattering.

  • “You’re really good at XXX aren’t you…”
  • “I’m impressed by XXX – you’d make an amazing XXX”

4. Efforts and Achievements

Acknowledging her hard work and achievements shows that you respect her ambitions and dedication.

  • “I heard about your promotion… That’s amazing! You must have worked really hard for it.”
  • “Whatever you’ve been doing at the gym, you need to teach me. It’s working…”

The Delivery

  1. Make Eye Contact: Eye contact shows sincerity and confidence. It makes your compliment feel more personal.
  2. Smile: A genuine smile can make your compliment feel warmer and more heartfelt.
  3. Don’t Overdo It: One or two well-placed compliments are enough. Overdoing it can make you seem insincere or desperate.

Common Mistakes to Avoid

  1. Avoid Generic Compliments: Phrases like “You’re hot” or “You’re pretty” are overused and lack depth 🤮
  2. Don’t Be Creepy: Compliments about intimate body parts are a no-go, especially if you’ve just met her.
  3. Timing is Everything: Choose the right moment. Complimenting her out of the blue or in a rushed manner can come off as awkward. 
  4. Compliment and Continue: Once you’ve complimented her, don’t force her to react or respond. Continue with the conversation, naturally to avoid awkward silences. Some people aren’t great at receiving compliments. 

Confession

When I was in my early 20s, I attempted to borrow a compliment directly from the Titanic movie… It was forced, unauthentical and poorly delivered (via an DM). Needless to say, I never got a reply 😂

Final Thoughts

Compliments are a great way to connect with women, but they need to be genuine, specific, and well-delivered. 

Remember, it’s not just about what you say, but how you say it. 

So next time you’re talking to a woman, think about what you genuinely appreciate about her and let her know. It’s a small gesture that can make a big impact.